Masters-Center / BodySmart Wellness Newsletter – 2/16/15

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Table Of Contents:

1. Article – Basics Of Developing Your Communication Skills
2. Philosophy For The Day
3. Physician Supervised Rapid Weight Loss Facts
4. Masters Educational Online Web (MEOW) Welcomes
     Roy Hunter
5. Liberty North Carolina Kung Fu Seminar With
     Grandmaster Philip Holder
6. Workshops and Courses

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Basics Of Developing Your Communication Skills
by Philip Holder, PhD
Copyright 2015

The ability to convey your thoughts and feelings clearly, listen effectively, argue productively, resolve conflicts, stay on topic and achieve common goals are essential in interpersonal relationships. Having the tools to better, manage anger and frustration, empathize and to effectively negotiate can stop differences of opinion from escalating into full blown arguments or fights.

Personal differences make life interesting, but can also cause conflict. Destructive arguments leave scars that are difficult to repair. Communication and listening skills are essential. Even though discussions are generally more productive than arguments, even arguments can be constructive and help you to better understand your spouse, friends, family, coworkers etc. if you follow a few simple rules. You can gain the ability to manage anger and frustration, empathize and to effectively negotiate by following a few simple guidelines.

Listen
It’s important to listen, not just to hear. Too often when one person is speaking, the other has stopped listening because he or she is already deciding what they want to say. Try your best to listen to what is said completely without translating that message into what you think they meant before you respond. It’s important that you help to make the other person feel heard.

Defensive Reactions
Avoid becoming defensive. Usually when someone becomes defensive their mouth opens and their ears close. It is nonproductive to interpret a different opinion or position as an attack.

Honesty
Often time people will put an inaccurate spin on the other person’s statements in order to make the other person sound less credible. This is dishonest and destructive to the process. For Example.: Person says: I think what you did was stupid. Other person replies: So you’re saying I’m stupid.Although they sound similar they are two totally different statements. When a person mischaracterizes in this way, it takes the focus off of the real issue at hand and the focus shifts to addressing the inaccurate statement within the debate/argument. If you truly believe in your position you shouldn’t have to put a slanted spin, or in any way distort what the other person said. If you find yourself doing that you might want to reevaluate the validity of your position.

But, It’s Because, But That’s Different
Avoid the But/Because trap. Most people seem to think that when something happens to them it’s somehow “Different” than when it applies to others. Strangely it may apply to the rest of the world but there’s some subtle difference when applied to them personally. That’s where the personal Inner Lie begins.

Look For Solutions For A Great Future Rather Than Problems From The Past.
Think about it… How frequently it is within human nature to hear people say, “The Problem Is”… Wherever we focus our thoughts and energy that is what we will give power to. It is important, therefore, to have the mindset of looking forward for solutions rather that backwards for problems.

Old Japanese Saying
Fix The Problem Not The Blame!

Ask Yourself, Would You Rather Be Happy Or Right?
If There Is A Difference Of Opinion, Decide… Would you rather be happy or right. Often, a short while into an argument, people can’t even remember what the original argument was about. The participants become so focused on proving their point (Winning) that the priority of the day becomes proving they are right rather than solving the problem. Keep in mind as well that if you “Win” you have just made the other person a LOSER! That could be especially destructive when it involves a friend, spouse etc. As well, no matter how right you think you are in that moment, always entertain the possibility that you could be wrong. Realistically… The actual truth usually lies somewhere in the middle.

What effect will this have on the overall outcome of my life?
Most differences of opinion are really about petty issues. In the bigger picture ask yourself… how significant is the issue at hand?

Parents… What would you tell your child to do about a similar communications problem, in a similar situation?
We (parents) usually find it easy to give our children our wizened advice. Perhaps we could use a dose of our own advice.

Look For Common Ground
If you look for a place to agree, it’s a sound starting position.

Want to find out more about communication? Visit www.BodySmartWellness.com or call Dr. Holder at BodySmart Wellness. 215-493-1204

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Philosophy For The Day

Getting the right answer to the wrong question has no more benefit than getting the wrong answer to the right question.
by Philip Holder, PhD

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Physician Supervised Rapid Weight Loss Facts

People used to think that if they eat less and exercise more they would lose weight. Would it surprise you to find out that that’s not totally true. Eating too little can often be as problematic as eating too much. With the exception of the hCG rapid loss program, most restricted calorie diets have a negative side effect. When someone does not eat enough food to fuel their body, their body goes into starvation mode and here’s what happens.

1. When a person’s body has too little fuel, in anticipation of starvation, the metabolic rate of that person slows in order to consume less calories and conserve fuel (Fat). That person is now burning less calories every moment of every day than they previously were. As well, this often results in the person being more lethargic and less likely to exercise and be active.

2. That person’s body will attempt to hold onto the fat cells, bloating existing cells and creating new fat cells.

3. Because that person’s body still needs nutrition, their body begins to break down muscle tissue and consume it is fuel. Note: Muscle weighs more than fat therefore the person may lose weight but not be losing the fat they desire to lose. As well because muscle burns fat 24 and 7 in an attempt to maintain itself, as muscle mass decreases so does the ability to burn calories.

In brief, hCG rapid weight loss program is the exception among restricted calorie diets. Here’s why… Although the patient may be orally consuming only 500 or 600 cal per day, the hCG facilitates the person’s body breaking down and consuming their own body fat at a rate of approximately 2500 cal per day. For that reason the person is actually getting around 3000 cal a day. Because of this, patients are usually not hungry during the cycle of hCG, and they don’t go into starvation mode thereby avoiding those nasty side effects. The hCG rapid weight loss programs should always be done under the supervision of a physician. There are many other benefits to the hCG rapid weight loss program. If you would like to find out more, call BodySmart wellness and schedule a consultation. We at BodySmart Wellness, would be happy to speak with you about this wonderful way to lose weight quickly.

By Dr. Philip Holder 

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MEOW Welcomes Roy Hunter
Also Look For Materials From Many Other Top People In Their Fields – COMING SOON

Roy Hunter, one of the premier practitioners and instructors of Parts Therapy, is now part of the MEOW family.

Roy Hunter is the published author of several books that are highly praised by professionals; and he is an experienced trainer. Roy’s presentations include numerous workshops both in the USA and abroad, for groups and business. His parts therapy text, Hypnosis for Inner Conflict Resolution: Introducing Parts Therapy has received raving reviews.

Visit MEOW and Click On Roy’s Sample Video Trailers to see More

Click Here To Visit MEOW

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Smart Shield Personal Protection / Wing Chun Kung Fu Seminar

Featuring Grandmaster Philip Holder

Location: 4229 Alamance Church Road, Liberty, North Carolina
Date/Time: Saturday April 11, 2015 – Sunday April 12, 2015
Saturday 11:00AM – 4:00 PM
Sunday  10:00AM – 5:00PM

Grandmaster Holder has done much to develop and promote Wing Chun Kung Fu in the United States. His 50+ years in the martial arts along with his practical experience in contact fighting and executive protection add a realistic touch to his classroom courses and instructional videos. He is respected worldwide for his abilities. Dr. Holder is the chief instructor and Grandmaster of the North American Wing Chun Association and the driving force behind the Ying Gi Ga method of Wing Chun, and the creator of the practical self defense system known as the “Six Zone Safeguard System”. Thousands worldwide have studied from him. Now you have the opportunity to benefit from his knowledge!

Saturday:
Smart Shield Personal Protection Program – Learn how to keep yourself and your loved ones safe in our unsettled world.  ONE DAY OF TRAINING COULD SAVE YOUR LIFE!

 Sunday:
Wing Chun… Understanding the system / Body Dynamics For Powerful Punches and Kicks, Fighting Strategies and Drills. Wing Chun Combat Skills (Applications for both contact sparring and for Hand To Hand Combat will be covered). If you would like to participate in sparring… Bring 14 oz or larger boxing gloves (leather only / no vinyl), foam foot gear and a double mouthpiece. Headgear is recommended but not required. Although sparring intensity will be moderate, proper gear is essential.  Time permitting there will be a meditation session at the end of the class.

All participants will be required to sign standard enrollment and release forms. Only registered participants will be permitted at the events (no unregistered spectators). No children under 18 permitted without special permission from Dr. Holder’s office. Recording devices or recording of any type are strictly prohibited. Please see our website BodySmartWellness.com for additional terms and conditions.

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